Consider the diamond….
A raw uncut diamond to the casual eye just looks like a normal average flawed rock. Nothing exciting or valuable here.. right? Wrong!
The diamond beneath its raw uncut surface is clarity, beauty beyond measure, pure reflection of light, a symbol of eternal love… but how do we get from an ordinary looking stone, to something that fills us with wonder and amazement at its beauty? WE CRACK IT OPEN! We cut away everything that hides the beauty… everything that has clung to the surface from the soil, struggles, tumbles around us!
Creating a diamond isn’t about making something wonderful.. it is about cutting away all that is holding us back from seeing its beauty. While we might look at ourselves and see an ordinary flawed, maybe even cracked rock.. if that rock gets cracked wide open, if those things around us hiding the beauty are destroyed, then we can see that glorious diamond in all its beauty.
Now consider how the diamond feels? It doesn’t see the beauty inside. If it looks in the mirror it only see’s the surface, and when it is cut or cracked open, when everything it knows falls away, only then does it see the magic.
WE are that diamond! We go through life-changing experiences, sometimes horrific experiences, and we spend years wondering why? What was wrong with us? What did we do wrong? We discover things about ourselves we cannot like, but in reality, it is the work of a master, showing us what is real and valuable, and removing all that holds us back from this reality.
The master is cracking us open so we can shine! And yet so often we endure such pain by fighting the change, by trying to hold onto the image of the valueless rock, never imaging what can be in store for us if we just open ourselves up, let go of the dross, and shine with the beauty and passion we were created with.
Karen Rohrlach (c)
Love is so often thought of as something one must ‘have’. Implying that it is something that we must ‘hold onto’. We say we ‘give’ love, implying that we are giving it away. Other times we look to love to fill an empty space inside or to heal our wounds. But in truth, none of these things are love. These things are all about fear and lack. The wise masters tell us that the opposite of love is fear, and that we cannot have both. We can only experience fear OR love. Fear is based on ego – our self doubt, unworthiness, emptiness and pain – these are the very things that make us want to ‘hold onto’ something or someone. It implies lack. “Have and to hold onto”, give or heal or fill, they are all based on lack. This is not love.
Real love, true love, is unconditional, it has no attachment, no need to hold onto, no feeling of lack. When we dig deep and do the work to let go of the ego based ideas of love we find something much greater and more profound. We find unconditional love. ‘True Love’.
Unconditional love is a space kept in our heart for someone. It is there regardless of the situation, regardless of whether you see or speak to someone, regardless of another’s actions. We can’t hold onto unconditional love, it is an energy that flows continuously, giving and receiving, filling and emptying in a never ending cycle of energy and flow. If we ever try to hold onto it, we lose it. If we attach our desires or outcomes to it, we lose it. It is like the current of a river, stop the current or flow and the water becomes stagnant and life dies.
Unconditional love is akin to universal love, spiritual love, love of God – depending on your affiliations. It makes no demands, has no expectations, has no lack. It is only in coming from a place of unconditional love that we can see the pure magic of creation. It is only in letting it be whatever it wants to be, and letting go of all attachment to outcomes, that we can experience it. It is the healing balm that heals the aching wounds of ego based love.
My learnings from this past week or so... If anything or anyone is holding you back from speaking or standing in your truth, from shining your light and following your path, then there is one solution! Shine your light more brightly! So often we can feel that we have energetic chains keeping us trapped, or a noose around our neck choking us, and we can clear these things if we know how, but let's face it - these chains are just energetic thought forms... Often from ourselves and our own limiting beliefs! There is another solution. Shine your light brighter! If something is dimming your light.. Shine it more brightly! If something is holding you back from speaking your truth, then stand In Your power and speak it more strongly. If life says.. You can't follow your path because... Then follow your path more passionately.. How you ask? With actions! Start speaking, start taking steps towards those things you dream of, start letting your inner passion shine through! Spread the love and the joy from your heart space and watch your world transform as others learn to do the same.
At various points in our lives we come to a cross roads and we must decide – crumbs or no crumbs? Crumbs can be many things. They can be abusive or unhealthy relationships, they can be hook ups, they can be playing small, and hanging out with people we don’t really resonate with. It can even be wearing the mask of ‘normality’ so we don’t expose our true authentic selves and live to our full potential. I have settled for a lot of crumbs in my life. I am here to say this very clearly – to myself – to the universe – and to anyone who reads or cares. I AM DONE SETTLING FOR CRUMBS!! From this point on nothing but Entrée, Mains and Dessert will do. I deserve to be respected and honoured – not least from myself. 2017 is going to be full of delicious, luscious three course meals! BRING IT ON!
Hi, My name is Karen Rohrlach. I am a writer, healer and coach with a background in Psychology, Business, Kinesiology and Counselling.